Basically there are two types of nice guys. One is happy with his relationships with women and the other… well he needs work… a lot of work. Most guys unfortunately fall into the second category at some time in their lives. I’ve been there too and it sucked.
SO WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO?
There’s a long and short answer and I’m going to be the “nice guy (A)” and give you both. From now on, I’m going to refer to them as Nice guy Mcleodganj escorts B and a. The short answer is that Nice Guy B is nice because he’s afraid, and a is nice because he wants to be. That’s it. That’s the main difference between the two. But when you dig deeper you’ll find that it’s so much more complex than that.
NICE GUY B
As i said before, nice guy B is afraid. He wants to please people and he thinks that by being nice he’ll accomplish this impossible goal. He’ll let people walk over him with minimal resistance, and when it comes to girls he’s a complete doormat. If you’re in this category you might not see it this way, but it’s true. Either you’re a doormat or an emotional tampon, and both aren’t desirable by any women.
One thing that B has to understand is that when you try and please everyone you please no one, especially not yourself. Girls find guys whose only purpose is to please them as unattractive.
Nice Guy B will spend money he doesn’t even have on girls. He’ll pay for expensive dinners, take them to movies, buy them jewelry, and anything they ask for. He’ll also be at their every beck and call. He’s there when their having problems with their friend, and he apologizes for everything even things that aren’t his fault. He’ll set aside things that are important to him just to tag along with the girl, in the hopes that it will somehow lead to sex or a relationship. He’ll also be happy to receive any kind of recognition of his efforts. A hug, a thank you, or the infamous “oh your so sweet. ” In the end, nice guy B only ends up in one place.
He gets thrown into the friends’ zone. His destiny is to watch Nice guy A take the girl he’s been relentlessly pursuing and coddling for weeks or even months. This might even happen after he’s somehow managed to start a relationship with the girl. Then he wonders why A is successful. So he logs on to the internet, and finds out the shocking truth below.
NICE GUY A
The truth is that nice guy A took B’s girl because he was nice. Ironic isn’t it? But he wasn’t nice out of fear; he was nice because he enjoys being that way. He’s not trying to please anybody. It makes no difference whether he’s talking to a supermodel or an old guy in the park, he does it because he wants too. A is confident, he has a backbone, and he knows what he wants. He’s not afraid to tell a girl No, and they respect him for it. He also takes girls out and even pays for them when he feels they’ve earned it.
Earned is the key word here. Nice guy A makes girls work for his time. This isn’t because he’s cocky or arrogant it’s because he knows his time is valuable. He makes a girl validate herself to him and convince him why he should be with her, and not the girl behind her.